I had an
I had an affair with my present partner. We’ve been together since he separated from his ex-wife three years ago; he has been divorced for two. The problem is, he has three grownup children and their mother causes trouble if she finds out they have spent time with me. While two of them are OK with doing things with their father and me, one son and his family will not even give me a chance, in support of his mother. Is there anything I could do to persuade his eldest to get to know me? Should I ask to meet their mother, so she will release their children to be OK with our relationship and we can move on with our lives?
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